Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Look, this is the discussion (rant) basically. Someone follows me and OUT OF POLITENESS I FOLLOW THEM BACK.
The only time I don't is if they are selling lino or renting apartments in Idaho okay? Or if they are going to tweet every hour with a quotation that sounds like it's straight out of a fortune cookie.
Back to my rant and those messages.
NOW THIS IS ABOUT WRITERS.
Generally the message one sends or one gets back is: THANK YOU FOR THE FOLLOW BACK.
What ticks me off is not getting that back but getting something like this instead. Remember this person CHOSE to follow me.
MY SECOND NOVEL WILL BE AVAILABLE AT BEEZLEBUB'S AT THE MEPHISTOPHELES
HERE ARE LINKS TO MY LATEST BLOG POSTS...
I don't know about you but I find that a little nervy IN THE VERY FIRST MESSAGE!
When I wrote back (I don't always and yes, this is pretty much what happened) I got, would you believe, a message thanking me for my support and telling me about something else that was written!
HELLOO?????????? Anybody home?
I have never, ever sent anyone a link in a message period. I have only done it if they ask me.
Hard sell to me is irritating, off-putting, antagonistic and rude.
Promoting is hard sure it is. But jamming what you've done down someone's throat starts up the gag reflex!
Thanks, and writers: any feedback on this? Do you hate this too? By the way very few writers do this thank goodness!
Monday, May 16, 2011
AS SOON AS I WENT OUTSIDE, my mother said: "oh no! Never say you want anything!"
Why not I thought, but okay.
Same thing with my dad. But he was worse. He belived in doing great deeds and not telling anyone. WHO DOESN'T LIKE SOME CREDIT, right? But that was my dad.
Now for the purposes of this rant: let me lay it out for you!
If someone does something really stupid and ticks you off but totally, why do we feel it incumbent upon ourselves to smile and make believe we don't hate them and we don't really want to throw a pie in their face? Hmm? Okay no pie throwing, but a frown at least?!
Even worse is at work your boss acts like a total Richard head and takes credit for something you did. Why can't we say, "ah excuse me you sneaky son of a... why did you do that? I'm not going to let you take credit for that!"
Wouldn't i be nice to announce to the entire office:
AH, PEOPLE I THOUGHT OF THAT. STUPID AND SNEAKY HERE DIDN'T! IT WAS ME, ONLY ME! YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But reality is different!
I came up with a money making idea for the organization and SHE TOOK CREDIT FOR IT.
So unfair. I wanted to scream and shout. Okay, excessive--but at the very least I wanted to take credit for it because it really turned out to be successful!
I didn't say anything which is an example of what I'm ranting about. WHY didn't I say anything? I left the job anyway! I mean I got tired of having chest pains along with my lunch! I was pretty young too, who needed that? I wasn't prepared to die over a lousy job!
Saying yes when you mean no, smiling when you want to tell someone off (who deserves it) can be very annoying--stifling emotion can cause problems to your health, really.
After that experience I was kinder to myself. I did speak up. And when I was bullied post 9/11 (LIKE THE DAY AFTER (!) in England where I was working by a boss who said, "So what?' basically, I reported him! Let me add there were other issues where I was singled out for his virtriol. But the worst of that happened immediately after September 11th.
He deserved to be held accountable and I had the satisfaction of being taken seriously. I was transferred to another department and told my complaint went on his permanent record. At the end of it, I received a dozen roses!
Rants are good they can be healthy but we need to follow a constructive coarse of action.
I don't in any way believe in being petty or overly sensitive. However, wrong is wrong. And one of the worst most damaging wrongs of all is bullying!
Now bullying deserves a rant all by itself!
Come and give me some feedback about bullying or about this rant in general. I love feedback.